tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8609668410134276508.post3458934246767980178..comments2023-06-21T09:14:08.639-05:00Comments on Skipping Past Cornfields: Building BlocksJulianahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15407208541547891658noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8609668410134276508.post-30884394836510683012010-11-12T11:45:06.330-06:002010-11-12T11:45:06.330-06:00I firmly believe every girl needs a Juliana in her...I firmly believe every girl needs a Juliana in her life. Some one to enrich her knowledge, provide culture and perspective. I don't think I will ever find another Juliana. I guess I'll just keep the one I've got!melissamilamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09124264765106629435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8609668410134276508.post-35535247684688494652010-11-10T14:37:07.089-06:002010-11-10T14:37:07.089-06:00Everybody needs a Melissa in their life! And a Blu...Everybody needs a Melissa in their life! And a Blue. :) Friendships can be messy and complicated things, particularly in the ending phase. Sometimes fading away is, indeed, a tender mercy. It isn't fun, though, when something that was important to you either fizzles or blows up spectacularly.Julianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15407208541547891658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8609668410134276508.post-18631790256339225192010-11-09T23:05:40.429-06:002010-11-09T23:05:40.429-06:00uh, that should have read "friendship that di...uh, that should have read "<i>friendship</i> that died"...big difference!Bluehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07019311467241458492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8609668410134276508.post-57202302371851245632010-11-09T23:04:21.777-06:002010-11-09T23:04:21.777-06:00I dearly dearly need a Melissa in my life. i have ...I dearly dearly need a Melissa in my life. i have a lot of nice friends in the area, but none of them has become a good fitness match. So I start out with good intentions, then fizzle. Every time. Sometimes the fizzle is due to boredom or lack of motivation, but far too often it's an injury...usually minor (ITB, tendinitis, etc.) that takes the drive out of me. so i wait, recoup, and retry. <br /><br />i just wish i could transform, the way you described.<br /><br />also, your thoughts in this and other posts about your friend that died have resonated with me. i've had a few people who were dear to me, and whom i was dear to, or maybe i just presumed that based on all our chats and times together, who just stopped...with no explanation. generally there was a phone call, unremarkable at the time, that ended up being the last. only i didn't realize, for over a year in all cases (during which time i tried repeatedly to connect to no avail), that that call had been "goodbye". <br /><br />but maybe it wasn't. maybe they just didn't realize at the time they were tired of me or my life, and it wasn't a conscious thing to move on, but it just happened. or maybe it was a tender mercy that they dropped me, because i needed to let go of them for various reasons. perhaps their influence in my life wasn't what i needed. maybe i am "dead wood" that needed trimming from their busy lives. <br /><br />i played the maybe game hundreds of times, always wishing that they'd have the kindness to just explain to me what it is that happens behind the scenes in these cases. cause i hate not knowing. but i've had to just let it go and accept that it's over, and that it probably wasn't even about me. just time and distance and life moving on.<br /><br />which is fine. i have enough and to spare in the<i> amazing people in my life</i>department. you're in that category. ♥Bluehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07019311467241458492noreply@blogger.com